Frisbees

Not everything in a relationship requires a response. Some things are gifts. But there are moments shared, loving words given, and little touches that aren't so much asking for it, but need more than just acceptance. If someone says "my beautiful woman" it's okay to say "my handsome man" back (if that's how you feel).

It's like a game of Frisbee. It's no good if you just throw a Frisbee to someone and they catch it and then do nothing. It's the same thing with the little details.

Now, if you're partner is catching the Frisbee and keeping it, let them know that the game is important to you. If they can't do it, they'll tell you. If it's a big deal, then maybe someone else is the answer. It could be that things like that aren't a big deal to them and so it doesn't matter if you don't give them. If you need to say it, then learn not to expect a response. But in the give and take of relationships, the good ones will say "I can do that". It may take them a while and they may suck at it for a bit (some of us are poets, some of us are text books), but be patient.

I can't emphasize enough the value of talking and establishing a way of communicating. For something like this, it's vital.